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My child refuses to practice between coaching sessions. Does it matter?

Ghalia Aamer

Answered by Ghalia Aamer, Founder, TalkMaze

Updated September 29, 2026 · 3 min read

The short answer

It matters, but less than parents fear, and the fix is smaller than they expect. Weekly sessions do most of the work. What home practice adds is repetition, and ten minutes of real speaking twice a week is enough to speed progress noticeably. Formal rehearsals are what students resist, so skip them.

Public speaking is a physical skill, closer to a sport or an instrument than to a school subject. Skills like that improve with reps. A student who speaks only in their weekly session is still improving, just more slowly than one who gets a few extra reps in between.

The resistance is almost always to the word "practice." It sounds like homework, and a student who is self-conscious about speaking has little reason to volunteer for more of it. So drop the word and build reps into things that already happen:

  • The dinner-table minute. They get sixty seconds to argue for something: best pizza topping, whether homework should exist. You time it. That is a rep.
  • The car recap. On the drive, they explain a movie or game to you as if you have never heard of it, with a beginning, middle and end.
  • Teach it back. They teach you one thing they learned in their last session. Explaining a skill is practice of the skill.
  • One recording a week. A two-minute video on a topic of their choice, sent to their coach or a grandparent.

None of these looks like rehearsing a speech, and all of them are speaking to an audience with structure, which is the actual skill.

When refusal is a signal

If your child refuses to practice and also dreads sessions, ask them what is going on. It may be the wrong level, the wrong coach match, or nerves that need a slower pace. Tell the coach. That is fixable, and it is worth fixing before your child decides they hate speaking.

How a coach works on this

TalkMaze coaches end each session with one small thing to try at home, sized so a reluctant student will actually do it. Because it is the same coach every week, they notice who practiced and build on it, and students like being noticed.

TalkMaze offers 1-on-1 online public speaking and debate coaching for students ages 5 to 17. Founder Ghalia Aamer is a national debate competitor, TEDx speaker, and Princess Diana Award recipient, and every coach is trained on the method she built.

Parents also ask

How much practice do coaches recommend?

About fifteen minutes, twice a week, is what we suggest to TalkMaze families. More helps before a big event, but consistency matters more than volume.

Should I make practice a rule?

A light routine works better than a rule enforced with consequences. Tie it to something fixed, such as Sunday dinner, so it happens without negotiation.

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